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We want you to thrive in your open relationships. That is why we curated +20 world-class polyamory relationship coaches, trauma-informed experts, sex therapists, and intimacy experts to support you through poly coaching.
Whether you’re in the beginning stages of exploring ethical non-monogamy, or already practicing non-monogamy for a while and dealing with jealousy and self-worth issues… we get it, because we’ve been there! Our professional team has helped thousands of partners struggling in various stages of non-monogamy and we’re here to support you too!
Raise your hand if any of these sound familiar.
- You get that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach the moment you imagine your partner in bed with someone else, and you’re consumed with jealousy and insecurity. You see the benefits of an open relationship, but your body is just not going along for the ride!
- Your partner struggles emotionally with open relating, and you desperately want to help them feel safe. You recognize that you can't just "talk" these emotions away and you don't know what else to do!
- You’re tired of conflict and endless arguments about dating new people, sexual safety, emotional safety, or rules and agreements, so you start avoiding them altogether!
- Maybe you've spent time and money with monogamous-trained relationship counselors who frankly don't get you. Sadly, some even insist you go back to monogamy. And not all "poly coaches" are not trauma-informed and their advice can often lead you in the wrong direction.
If you said YES to any of these... you’re NOT alone! We've been there, and heck, sometimes we still struggle! But we have had some HUGE breakthroughs, and we’re ready to help you go from jealousy and insecurity to THRIVING in Ethical Non-Monogamy!
Finding the Right Polyamory Therapist
Most therapists are more familiar with monogamous relationship issues and are not knowledgeable about specific polyamory relationship struggles. This makes it difficult for those seeking poly advice to find experienced poly therapists.
In our coaching program, you will learn how to get out of your heads and into your hearts, move through conflicts faster, and experience more joy in your open love lives.
A successful poly relationship full of love, laughter, and compersion is possible. Let us help you get there.
During your coaching sessions we will:
- Learn more about you and your specific relationship struggles and relationship dynamics.
- Discuss why you chose an open relationship in the first place and help you find the right course of action for you and your partner(s).
- Understand who’s emotionally ready (or not) for an open relationship so you can avoid unnecessary insecurities and heartaches when jealousy and resentment show up.
- Look beneath jealous thoughts and behaviors to address unmet needs and the history of relationship wounds.
- Share tools that you need to thrive in your open relationships.
- Help you find clarity about what you truly desire. Then I help you work through the feelings and insecurities surrounding your relationship.
- Discuss when is the right time to open or close a relationship, or something in between, so you're never taking things too fast, which is a common mistake
- Find the style of non-monogamy that suits most of your needs at this time, so you can enjoy your open relationship.
Getting 1:1 support from a polyamory coach or polyamory therapist is critical if you truly care about thriving, not just surviving in your open relationships.
About Leveled Up Love
We struggled through decades of monogamy. After the standard guilt, shame, and stagnation, we were certain that we had to give at least polyamory and open relating a try. But opening up our relationship had its own unique challenges and we were far from prepared.
After 10 years, some hard-won lessons, and advice from top experts, we’ve been on a non-stop personal growth and healing trajectory. And, we want you along for the ride!
We specialize in all variations of polyamorous relationships. We are here to help you, no matter where you are on your related journey.
Hear What Some Of Our Clients Have to Say...
“Shai taught us tools to relate to each other in a heart-centered way – from a place of curiosity and love, not judgment.
Leveled Up Love gave us the roadmap on how to hold space for each other’s feelings without getting defensive, feeling like we have to cave in, or like the other person has to bend to our will.”
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Open Relationships Are Hard.
But they don't have to be.
Having been in polyamorous relationships for over 10 years, I know the exact struggles you’re going through. I’ve personally been there. It hasn’t always been easy.
You can try doing this alone. But we’ve learned, the hard way, that trying to resolve open relationship struggles on your own is a huge mistake! Reading books or watching videos on polyamory is simply not enough when you’re dealing with complex matters of sharing love, trauma, attention, and intimacy with more than one person.
Having a polyamorous support system and coaches who understand the struggles of ethical non-monogamy can make all the difference.
We have poly coaches who specialize in communication, trauma healing, sex therapy, open marriages, sacred sexuality, consensual non-monogamy, poly family dynamics, dating, couples, and intimacy.
How Does Our Polyamory Coaching Program Work?
- You will first have a strategy call to assess which polyamory coach or coaches may be the best match for you, based on your particular circumstances.
- Sometimes one polyamory coach is all you need, and other times we’ve found that a combination of 2-3 coaches/therapists offer a more well rounded approach to get you on the right track
- The sessions can be one-off or come in packages. We’ve also built deeper immersions that last as long as 6-12 months with a curated team of coaches and modalities that are custom designed for you and your poly partner/s.
Learn more about The Secure Poly Protocol
Every day we’re seeing our clients follow our proven process and start to thrive, not just survive, in their open relationships!
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Next Level Communication
We’ll focus on teaching you our one-of-a-kind emotional attunement and communication method called S.P.A.R.C., a simple, step-by-step process to resolve open relationship conflicts. With our unique S.P.A.R.C. communication blueprint you'll learn how listen to listen, not to respond. If you're gonna practice "The Olympics of Relationships" leveling up your communication skills is KEY!
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Nervous System Support & Trauma Healing
We'll teach you skills on how to manage the emotions + nervous system responses of the open partners that get anxious and jealous (which is quite common in non-monogamy). We do this by handpicking from our team of 20+ Practitioners who offer a wide array of newer, more effective modalities, like TRE, IFS, BWRT and PSIP just to name a few.
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Strategy, Education & Community
We'll share best practices and strategies that are most ideal for YOUR specific relationship, to get everyone's needs met. We also offer a 9000+ member community and a growing library of over 200 exclusive educational workshops facilitated by open relationship experts such as Jessica Fern, Author of PolySecure and Martha Kauppi, Author of Polyamory.
Our program is completely customizable. Some clients just need to improve their communication skills a bit while other clients need deeper levels of support. We carefully tailor each strategy to the specific situation and needs of our clients.
Leveled Up Loves Fields of Coaching
- Consensual Non-monogamy
- Opening Up Marriages
- Managing Jealousy
- Relationship Agreements
- Ethical Non-monogamy
- Unconventional Relationships
- Boundaries & Communication
- Trauma Healing
- Opening Up Relationships
- Solo Polyamory
- Self-worth Blocks
- Family Dynamics
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You will be work directly with relationship coaches who understand polyamory relationships and dynamics. This means you will get the poly help you need from people who understand exactly what you are going through.
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