A Team of Ethical Non-Monogamy Therapists
Monogamy isn’t for everyone. And we want you to thrive in ethical (also known as consensual) non-monogamy and those configurations and struggles can look different for everyone. That’s why we’ve curated +20 world-class alternative relationship counselors, coaches, trauma-informed experts, sex therapists, and intimacy experts to support you.
Work Directly with experienced ethnical non-monogamy (ENM) therapists to Level Up Your Relationships.
Whether you’re in the beginning stages of exploring ethical non-monogamy, or already practicing non-monogamy for a while and dealing with jealousy and self-worth issues… we get it, because we’ve been there! Our professional team has helped thousands of partners struggling in various stages of non-monogamy and we’re here to support you too!
Raise your hand if any of these sound familiar.
- You get that sick feeling in the pit of your stomach the moment you imagine your partner in bed with someone else, and you’re consumed with jealousy and insecurity. You see the benefits of non monogamy, but your body is just not going along for the ride!
- Your partner struggles emotionally and you desperately want to help them feel safe. You recognize that you can't just "talk" these emotions away and you don't know what else to do!
- You’re tired of conflict and endless arguments about dating new people, sexual safety, emotional safety, or rules and agreements, so you start avoiding them altogether!
- Maybe you've spent time and money with monogamous-trained relationship counselors who frankly don't get you. Sadly, some even insist you go back to monogamy. And not all ENM therapists are not trauma-informed and their advice can often lead you in the wrong direction.
If you said YES to any of these... you’re NOT alone! We've been there, and heck, sometimes we still struggle! But we have had some HUGE breakthroughs, and we’re here to help you THRIVE in your non monogamous relationships!
Finding the Right ENM Therapist
Most therapists are more familiar with monogamous relationship issues and are not knowledgeable about the specific struggles and circumstances that come into play with the variations of non-monogamy. For anyone practicing or interested in practicing ethical non-monogamy, this makes it difficult to find a counselor who specializes and has experience with consensual non-monogamous relationships.
With CNM, you and your partner(s) will have to navigate things like boundaries, safe sex, and jealousy. In our coaching program, you will learn how to get out of your heads and into your hearts, move through conflicts faster, and experience more joy.
During your coaching sessions we will:
- Learn more about you and your specific relationship struggles and relationship dynamics.
- Discuss why you chose non monogamy in the first place and help you find the right course of action for you and your partner(s).
- Understand who’s emotionally ready (or not) so you can avoid unnecessary insecurities and heartaches when jealousy and resentment show up.
- Look beneath jealous thoughts and behaviors to address unmet needs and the history of relationship wounds.
- Share tools and resources that you need to thrive while you navigate CNM.
- Help you find clarity about what you truly desire. Then I help you work through the feelings and insecurities surrounding your relationship.
- Discuss when is the right time to open or close a relationship, or something in between, so you're never taking things too fast, which is a common mistake.
- Find the style of non monogamy that suits most of your needs at this time, so you can enjoy your relationships.
Getting professional support from our team of ethical non monogamy therapists is critical if you truly care about thriving, not just surviving in non monogamy.
About Leveled Up Love
We struggled through decades of monogamy. After the standard guilt, shame, and stagnation, we were certain that we had to give non-Montgomery. But by doing that, it had its own unique challenges and we were far from prepared.
After 10 years, some hard-won lessons, and advice from top experts, we’ve been on a non-stop personal growth and healing trajectory. And, we want you along for the ride!
We specialize in all non-monogamous relationship structures. We are here to help you, no matter where you are on your related journey.
Hear What Some Of Our Clients Have to Say...
“Shai taught us tools to relate to each other in a heart-centered way – from a place of curiosity and love, not judgment.
Leveled Up Love gave us the roadmap on how to hold space for each other’s feelings without getting defensive, feeling like we have to cave in, or like the other person has to bend to our will.”
Ashley & Mike
Angela & Greg
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Non-Monogamy Can be Hard.
But it doesn't have to be.
Having practiced consensual non-monogamy for over 10 years, I know the exact struggles you’re going through. I’ve personally been there. It hasn’t always been easy.
You can try doing this alone. But we’ve learned, the hard way, that trying to resolve the struggles that come with non-monogamy on your own is a huge mistake! Reading books or watching videos is simply not enough when you’re dealing with complex matters of sharing love, trauma, attention, and intimacy with more than one person.
Having a support system and coaches who understand the struggles of ENM and CNM can make all the difference.
We have expert coaches who specialize in communication, trauma and emotional healing, attachment theory, sex therapy, sacred sexuality, family dynamics, dating, couples, and intimacy.
How Does Our ENM Therapy Program Work?
- You will first have a strategy call to discuss your specific relationship struggles and determine which coach and/or therapist may be the best match for you.
- Sometimes one therapist is all you need, and other times we’ve found that a combination of 2-3 coaches or therapists offer a more well rounded approach to get you on the right track.
- Sessions can be one-off or come in packages. We’ve also built deeper immersions that last as long as 6-12 months with a curated team of coaches and modalities that are custom designed for you and your partner(s).
Learn more about our
Secure ENM Success Protocol
Every day we’re seeing our clients follow our proven process and start to thrive, not just survive, in their non-monogamous relationships!
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Next Level Communication
We’ll focus on teaching you our one-of-a-kind emotional attunement and communication method called S.P.A.R.C., a simple, step-by-step process to resolve open relationship conflicts. With our unique S.P.A.R.C. communication blueprint you'll learn how listen to listen, not to respond. If you're gonna practice "The Olympics of Non-Monogamy" leveling up your communication skills is KEY!
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Nervous System Support & Trauma Healing
We'll teach you skills on how to manage the emotions + nervous system responses of the open partners that get anxious and jealous (which is quite common in non-monogamy). We do this by handpicking from our team of 20+ Practitioners who offer a wide array of newer, more effective modalities, like TRE, IFS, BWRT and PSIP just to name a few.
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Strategy, Education & Community
We'll share best practices and strategies that are most ideal for YOUR specific relationship dynamics, to get everyone's needs met. We also offer a 9000+ member community and a growing library of over 200 exclusive educational workshops facilitated by non-monogamous relationship experts such as Jessica Fern, Author of PolySecure and Martha Kauppi, Author of Polyamory.
Our program is completely customizable. Some clients just need to improve their communication skills a bit while other clients need deeper levels of support. We carefully tailor each strategy to the specific situation and needs of our clients.
Leveled Up Loves Fields of Coaching
- Ethical Non-monogamy
- Relationship Communication
- Relationship Agreements
- Managing Jealousy
- Intimacy and Connection
- Consensual Non-monogamy
- Boundaries & Communication
- Attachment Theory
- Trauma Healing
- Emotional Attunement
- Self-Worth and Identity
- Sexual Health and Safety
- Conflict Resolution
- Family Dynamics
- Relationship Transitions
The Benefits of Working With Our
Ethical Non-Monogamy Coaches
Professional CNM Relationship Coaches
You will be working directly with relationship coaches who understand the dynamics that come with different variations of non-monogamy. This means you will get the proper help you need from people who understand exactly what you are going through.
Manage Jealousy and Learn How To Go from Panic to Security
Explore our workshops focused on healing old wounds, including TRE® (Trauma Releasing Exercises) and Tapping/EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).
Get Access to Support Resources
Expert curated tools and resources to help you and your partner(s) thrive in ethical non-monogamy, and full access to our close-knit open relationship community.
Free Access to Membership Program
With most of our packages, you get lifetime access to our membership program. This has over 150+ hours worth of non-monogamous relationship-related workshops and resources.