When you first decide to make the brave leap from a lifetime of monogamous relationships to the world of consensual non-monogamy (also known as CNM), you get asked a lot of…erm…interesting questions by friends, family, and pretty much anyone else who you knew up until that point. Questions like, “isn’t that just cheating with permission?”, …
Open Relationships vs. Polyamory: What’s the Difference? Read More »
Dear E., Forgive me. I know you get a bad rap. You are the pariah of the spiritual and conscious community, shouldering blame and shame for limiting people’s potential with your endless fear and doubt. I know that people with “elevated consciousness” talk about you as if you are some repellant disease, like a leprosy …
“Own your shit.” “Do the inside job.” “It’s your soul’s journey.” “You are responsible for your emotions, not me.” “If you truly loved me, you’d be happy for me.” I don’t consider myself a polyamory proponent. I believe it works for some and not for others. I do believe that polyamory has the potential heal …
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Light creeps in through my puffy eyelids. Here we go again, I grumble. Waking up feeling low on love when you’re surrounded by love. How do I keep ending up here? I’d been struggling with an unusual rise in tension with my beloved during this extraordinary circumstance. Waking up alone after a lackluster goodnight embrace compounds …
I AM polyamorous AND… ALSO in committed relationships. It’s not exactly your grandma’s brand of commitment but commitment nonetheless! Unlike Grandma, I’m no longer interested in living the unrealistic expectation of “forsaking ALL others till death do us part”. Emotional and sexual exclusivity for life may be the definition of commitment for others but it …
Is It Really About Polyamorous Vs. Committed Relationships? Read More »
This guest essay is a companion to our Letter to the Man Who Shares the Woman I Love. Both letters were inspired by the exquisitely vulnerable essay “A Letter To The Women Who Sleep With My Man” by Wilrieke Sophia. A Letter to the man who welcomes me into his queen’s kingdom: Benevolent brother, I have been …
This post is a loving response to the exquisite and vulnerable “Letter to the Women Who Sleep with My Man” by Wilrieke Sophia. Dear sister, Thank you. Thank you for sharing your beloved with me. I am acutely aware that the time he spends with me could have been yours to enjoy. Your generosity defies everything I’ve …
One of the first concepts I came across in reading polyamory and consensual non-monogamy bibles such as Opening Up and More than Two was a relationship rules agreement. This is a set of boundaries or guidelines designed to allow each person in an open relationship to engage with the outside world while protecting the original relationship. In my first marriage, …
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