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Polyamory Jealousy Can Be Frustrating

It’s often frustrating to feel jealousy in consensual non-monogamy. But it does happen more often than many think. Past trauma comes up and that’s not easy to control. It can also be hard to find people to date, or friends to talk to who understand you. We learned from our own path and decided to help others.

What It's Like to Join The Secure Poly Collective?

Leveled Up Love is a friendly polyamorous community devoted to helping our members thrive in more conscious open relationships.

Our VIP program, called The Secure Poly Collective, is a series of transformative online workshops can that support you in balancing relational freedom and emotional responsibility to your partners. Our program offers a 14-day free trial of all our online events.

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The Benefits of Our Community


Gain Practical Skills From Poly Experts

Attend monthly online workshops facilitated by world class polyamory experts such as Jessica Fern, KamalaDevi McClure, Elisabeth Sheff, Ph.D., and more. Pick up critical mindsets and tools for ethical non-monogamy, and learn about alternative trauma healing modalities, such as plant medicine, tantra, BDSM and more.

Learn With and Lean on Our Community

Monogamous friends can give terrible poly dating and relationship advice. Join our discussion groups and find over 7,000+ high-vibe open relators, who are on the same journey as you. You can now lean on fellow members for support through the ups and downs of your journey.

Expand Your Poly Circle

Monthly educational, dating and play workshops help you meet new like-minded ethical non-monogamists.

Come Play With Us

Our Virtual Pleasure Garden, Tantra and other Kink events are discreet opportunities for connection, play and healing. Our interactive and titillating experiences are put on by professional performers and facilitators.

What Our Members Have To Say

“I really enjoyed so many of The Secure Poly Collective events. From the virtual Poly Speed Dating experience where I felt safe enough to be my silly self, to the Secure Poly Immersion day-long event, with Jessica Fern and Derek Hart, where I was blown away listening to the way Derek worked with a couple in a poly crisis. I loved the perspectives he shared on how the couple was relating to each other in unproductive ways. It was so helpful and brought an awareness for that couple and I could see that magic happen in their “ahh hah” moment. I also just enjoy the chat space where everyone was respectful of each other’s poly questions, and being helpful and kind.”
Ayla B.
“The Secure Poly Collective, by Leveled Up Love, is valuable for anyone looking to consciously explore relationships beyond monogamy. Building a love life that exists ‘outside the box’ can come with many challenges, but sharing and learning in a forum of like-minded hearts have been a healing experience of support and community for me.”
Teagan A.
“I had an amazing time attending the Virtual Pleasure Garden, by Leveled Up Love. I loved the feelings of togetherness and loving connection that was created, as well as the amazing performers who offered beautiful gifts of flow with so much heart, skill, and sensuality.”
David F.

About Leveled Up Love

We struggled through decades of monogamy. After the standard guilt, shame and stagnation, we came away certain that we had to give open relating at try. But polyamory has its own unique and specific challenges and we were far from prepared. Sadly, most are not prepared. Starting with just a few basic rules didn’t save us from strife, and heartaches.

But after 10 years, some hard-won lessons, and advice from top experts, we’ve been on a non-stop personal growth and healing trajectory. And, we want you along for the ride!


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Relationships Are Hard.

But they don't have to be.

Whether you’re new to polyamory or open relationships, it’s important to recognize that all relationships, regardless of their structure, can be tough at times. 

But navigating multiple romantic connections or exploring non-monogamy can present unique challenges that require open communication, trust, and a willingness to adapt and grow. 

Trust me, I‘ve personally been there. It hasn’t always been easy. But having a support system and coaches who understand the struggles of ethical non-monogamy can make all the difference. This is one of the main reasons we created Leveled Up Love. If you’re looking for coaching or support, book a free 30-minute introductory call with Shai today and see how we can support you in leveling up your relationship(s).


We have coaches who specialize in communication, trauma healing, sex therapy, open marriages, sacred sexuality, consensual non-monogamy, plant medicines, poly family dynamics, dating, couples, and intimacy. We work with all relationship types and structures.

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Dear sister, Thank you. Thank you for opening your heart and opening your body for my beloved. Thank you for being vulnerable with him. Thank you for sharing precious moments and organic bliss with him. Thank you for enriching his life. You can give him things I never can; for the simple reason that you are not me.

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3 Things Kinksters and Polyamorists Value Highly

There is an overlap between kinksters and polyamous individuals. There are similarities among the people who participate in kinky sex and/or polyamory, including their personal attributes like race and education, as well as their shared social attributes that appear on both a personal and community level.

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